Power. A gentleman must always strive to develop the mental, emotional and spiritual strength to change the course of his life and the lives of those who he interacts with for the better. This power will come, not from an over inflated view of self, but from an acknowledgement of his weaknesses and a wish to improve. His status will NOT dictate this power because it will be forged from his will to control, not the things around him but himself.

I contemplated a long time before writing this last of the four qualities. Out of the four, aside from Love I believe it is probably the most misunderstood and misused quality that men need to develop. So many men use their physical power improperly, recklessly and without regard for others around them. Many use their power to scheme up selfish and egotistical atrocities against women, against other men, against those who are powerless and against those who may stand in their way. Many of the problems facing society began with the misuse of power. This has led to Global-political uprisings, social injustices, community fragmentation, familial and personal crisis’s. But what is the proper use of power? How can the gentleman develop and balance his use of power in his life?

Power: Webster’s Dictionary
1. ability to do or act; ability of doing or accomplishing something.
2. great or marked ability to do or act; strength; might; force.

Power denotes a person’s ability or capacity to act. Their personal physical , mental and emotional force that enables them carry out a desired task. It’s closely link to how efficiently we use it to figure out solutions to life’s challenges and overcome adversities

Lets clear the slate and make it clear on what is NOT true Power:

Power That Corrupts

“Power is of two kinds. One is obtained by the fear of punishment and the other by acts of love.” – Gandhi

Power that demeans, oppresses, controls, inspires fear or that is violent is NOT true Power. Men have been especially bombarded with images of false masculinity, a system that tells us that aggression, dominance or power over others is something to aspire to. Our relationships can be tarnished when the struggle for power leads to mental, emotional and even physical abuse. If you are struggling with issues of anger or family abuse and possibly want to change, having the right view of power is essential.

Power That Inspires

“Mastering others is strength. Mastering yourself is true power.” – Lao Tzu

True power is the physical, mental and emotional ability to guide the course of your life and help others along the way. A gentleman knows that a life of fulfillment starts with helping others. Watch enough VH1 Behind The Music and you’ll realize that although fame, fortune and prosperity may be fulfilling financially, but it ultimately doesn’t make you happy.

A gentleman understands that in the pursuit of goals in his life balance is key. A gentleman is balanced. He understands his limitations, yet always strives to push his abilities. He knows that moderation isn’t the same as mediocrity, It’s the balance between doing nothing and doing too much. We all have to make a living, we all want to aspire to greatness within our purpose. However, we must not let those pursuits get our focus off the things that truly matter in life; our relationships with people, specifically our friends and family.

Our power as men should be defined, not by our physical stature, our academic achievements or even our financial status. It should be based on the impact we have on those who we interact with everyday. It is the small subtle things we do each day to improve ourselves and influence positive change in our lives.

“Before we acquire great power we must acquire Wisdom to use it well.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Justice and power must be brought together, so that whatever is just may be powerful, and whatever is powerful may be just.” – Blaise Pascal

“Power based on Love is a thousand times more effective and permanent then the one derived from fear of punishment.” – Gandhi

I will become a man of Power. I will develop and hone my mental, emotional and spiritual acuity to control my internal reaction to external surroundings and actively direct my course in life. I will use my physical power not to oppress, but to protect anyone I love or may be in need.

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