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Fashion Friday: Whatever Happened to Style?


“What ever happened to style?” This is the question that a Chrysler commercial asks. As I watched this commercial I was inspired to write a post about personal elegance. There was a time when men like William Powell, Clark Gable, Leslie Howard, Humphrey Bogart, Carey Grant, James Cagney, James Earl Jones, Sidney Poitier and Harry Belafonte graced us with their strength of will, character and effortless elegance. Women like Gloria Swanson, Kim Novak, Kate Hepburn, Rita Hayworth, Dorothy Dandridge, Ruby Dee, Dianne Carroll, Lena Horn mystified us with their strength, class and intelligence.  Those days are gone, or are they?

Personal style is directly connected to your values. It’s about defining yourself through your actions, the way you move through life, it’s about how you exit a room, and not how you enter it. Anyone can make a grand entrance, but can you leave a lasting impression after you’ve left? It’s about the mark you leave on the hearts and minds of people you interact with each day. I’m an advocate for the behavior behind the appearance. Many  readers who follow me on twitter know that my favorite tagline “What good is a new suit if the man inside is rotten?” is more than a catchphrase for me, it is a meditation. All of these actors are/were great actors, some are/were great people outside their craft. Some chose philanthropy, humanitarianism, some were ambassadors, artists, writers etc. What made them great was the incredible lasting impressions they left on us even to this day. They arrived but it was their body of work and influence that still make us refer to them as icons.

Whatever happened to style? That’s a question that we all can answer with our body of  life’s work.

Dress internally.

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Fashion Friday: ‘Suit and Substance’ a Curious Collaboration of Content Curation


Suit and Substance is my new Flipboard magazine.It will aim to inspire men to up their style skill in 3 main areas: Character, Competency and Clothing. It’s designed to urge you to be the best you can be with innovative and inspiring videos, pictures and insightful writing that focuses on living a life of passion through purpose. A little off centered but always engaging, Suit and Substance aims to be not your everyday mens magazine. Stay tuned, Suit and Substance will launch June 2013

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Fashion Friday: Woman’s Style: A Gentleman’s Perspective


Fashion has taken many twists and turns through the years but the one thing that hasn’t changed is people’s need to express their personalities through clothing. Women and men do this slightly different. For years, men have dreaded even going into the store let alone trying on clothing. While most women keep up on the latest trends going on in style and fashion (I see a lot of women with a killer shoe, handbag & accessory game) most men prefer to “just get on with it,” picking just the basics in clothing and move on.

Things have changed in the past several years. Men have been become more and more interested in style and fashion. No longer does she have to say: “Are you really going to wear that?“ Blogs and magazines have set out a roadmap to help us to become proficient at matching, accessorizing and generally better companions when it comes to dressing. Translation: we won’t embarrass you anymore.

As a Gentleman I offer this as a message to the ladies: With this newfound interest in fashion some of us have gained we want you to know that even though we may enjoy flipping through Esquire, GQ and the many other magazines and books on style, for us it’s still sexy just to watch you strut your stuff and rock those killer Spring or Fall looks. We appreciate those A-line skirts, those peep-toed sling backs, the stacked heels, the dresses from Stop Staring, the way you turn heads when enter a room, or the way you grow your hair out in luscious natural curls or flowing straight wisps. we like you curvy, we like you confident, we want you to shine. And now that we have fashionably come into our own, we just want to look as good as you do when we step out with you on our dates, have that first inevitable meet & greet with your friends (we know you rate us when you excuse yourselves to go to the bathroom) or even one day meet the parents, we want to fashionably complete not compete.

This means we might have to negotiate closet space. As our interest gets larger, so does our wardrobes. So don’t be surprised if we want to go shopping. Of course you’ll have wait for us now while we go into Brooks Brothers, Sax or Nordstrom. But that’s a small price to pay for the both of us to look fly.

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Transformations: Monday Motivation-Living The Life of Mastery vs Mediocrity


 


I write a lot on this blog about changing yourself from the inside out. Becoming an “Internal Stylist”  to your personality is a very revealing and often surprising endeavor. “Character Tailoring” forces you to look in the mirror and see how you really think and feel about the real important issues in your life. This gentleman’s journey has had some  interesting twists and turns. And now I’m on the path to become the best possible version of myself. I feel as if I am giving my mind and heart a complete system overhaul like I would do my laptop. I’ve upgraded my attitude, re-installed my motivation and tweaked little habits here and there to run a little smoother, quieter and more efficient. The process has been full of crashes and reboots but I think I’ve become more compatible with my purpose and I’m now at version 4.0.

Maybe you’re in that same place, looking to upgrade, reboot and make some changes in your life to gain some mastery over your purpose or passion. Well, for most getting started isn’t an issue. We all have pretty good internal motivations. Some of us may not even have a problem staying the course. For most of us the trick I believe is staying balanced.

“Try not to think and act in extremes. Instead,  become a student of balance. There is wisdom in balance. Balance is the ability to see danger in excess or inertness. It’s the ability to  keep up our physical, mental, emotional & spiritual health-become a student of Balance.”

When we are balance we are able to look at ourselves in a constructive way (not too harshly or loosely) so that real change can be made and goals achieved. I often think about it this way: If the thing that you are reaching out for throws you out of sync with your health, relationships, your mental, spiritual and emotional stability, then you may be in danger of not being balanced. Mastery comes when we can say no to the interruptions of that balance. Life makes all of us its students, the key is learning in the least amount of time so we can get to our purpose faster. We do that by knowing ourselves, we get to know ourselves by questioning our motivations.

Some  people might say: “I don’t want to settle, sounds like balance is another word for mediocrity.” But balance isn’t like someone having no motivation at all. It’s the difference between doing nothing and doing too much at all cost. Here’s a suggestion: the next time you watch TVOne’s Life After or VH1’s Behind The Music think about the energy that was spent on the goals the person had and the physical, emotional and mental cost vs the happiness they did or did not gain. Ultimately, most of the people are happy because they found purpose or better yet, balance in the things that they are doing in their lives now . but it was only AFTER they learned to be balance did they really realize the full mastery of their purpose.

We all should live a life of passion, move closer to the thing that drives us to wake up in the morning and conquer our fears. Go out there.Work hard. Be. Do. Just remember to master the balance of goals vs the true cost to our happiness.

Dress Internally.

TheStyleGent

“Think like a man of action, and act like a man of thought.”

Henri L. Bergson (French philosopher, 1859 – 1941)

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