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Monday Motivations: Fake Fashion, True Trendsetting

Monday Motivations: Fake Fashion, True Trendsetting

There are as many places on the net that will tell you what, when, why and who to wear. But there is something much more important than the latest instagram “selfie” or the latest and greatest place to find that killer look. More important than our outer appearance is the person we are each day when we “suit up,” our inner person. Have we achieved and clothed ourselves in the best qualities that will make us a better person each day? We live in a world fraught with frivolity, fifteen minute fame and superficiality. Reality TV titillates our taste buds for bad behavior and the exploitation of our women, perpetuates our propensity and toleration of the Man-child and ultimately corrupts our views of healthy relationships.

Lets get refocused. Let’s not be the social norm, let’s be true trendsetters. Let’s rally around substance over surface, selflessness over selfishness. Let’s stop trying to live the THE lifestyle and start living purposeful lives. Let’s start addressing the issues that keep us from having healthy relationships with our sons & daughters, husbands or wives, our baby’s mothers or fathers, Let’s start spending more time on the person we are on the INSIDE as we do on the outside. Let’s be character tailors, true trendsetters, let’s…

“Vestire Internamente”
(Dress Internally)


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Fashion Friday: The Resurgence of the Modern Renaissance Man

If there’s one thing that style teaches us it’s that in order to establish your individuality you need to be willing to live, not by trends, but with   pieces that will stand the test of time. Most of us know how to get those core pieces in our wardrobe, but it’s the DETAILS that make a distinction between the drab and the deft.

Tracy and Mike Xavier   hope to do this with their Accessory brand Modern Renaissance Man. Taking cues from such iconic shows like Deadwood, Boardwalk Empire and Mad Men, which have a deep history of men’s vintage fashion, Modern Renaissance Man interprets these ideas in a fresh and modern way. Looking forward while respectfully nodding to the past.

They describe their products in this way:

“Tie bars, tie clips, cuff links, pocket scarves and squares. Vintage finds & custom creations, Re-imagined accessory line for men & women. Suits make a man look great, accessories make a man more interesting.”


One of the challenges in finding accessories for men is that it has to be well made,  thoughtful, innovative and stylish. Tracy and Mike hit all those marks, not only in the the quality of the materials but also in the execution of the design. A classic paisley silk pocket square paired with a handmade flower lapel pin and matching color accents. Innovative tie tacks that don’t pierce and damage your tie (MAG TAK) and a focus on details: fully finished silk backs for the magnets, contrasting stitching on the pocket squares and more. Tracy and Mike have also specifically chosen to use great materials that really reflect their thoughtful approach to the modern man’s sensibilities: leather, stainless steel, brass and European silk, all done (here’s the best part) with your budget in mind with most products starting under $20


When I had an issue with one of the flower pins Tracy graciously offered to fix or replace the product for me. This is very very important to me. When you’re buying from a handmade retailer who stands behind their product it’s great to know that customers can reach out to them and buy with a confidence that their concerns are heard and addressed promptly.


All in all I was very pleased with my experience with them and you will too. Head on over to Modern Renaissance Man and check out a unique online boutique of men’s vintage accessories with a twist.

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Fashion Friday: Whatever Happened to Style?

“What ever happened to style?” This is the question that a Chrysler commercial asks. As I watched this commercial I was inspired to write a post about personal elegance. There was a time when men like William Powell, Clark Gable, Leslie Howard, Humphrey Bogart, Carey Grant, James Cagney, James Earl Jones, Sidney Poitier and Harry Belafonte graced us with their strength of will, character and effortless elegance. Women like Gloria Swanson, Kim Novak, Kate Hepburn, Rita Hayworth, Dorothy Dandridge, Ruby Dee, Dianne Carroll, Lena Horn mystified us with their strength, class and intelligence.  Those days are gone, or are they?

Personal style is directly connected to your values. It’s about defining yourself through your actions, the way you move through life, it’s about how you exit a room, and not how you enter it. Anyone can make a grand entrance, but can you leave a lasting impression after you’ve left? It’s about the mark you leave on the hearts and minds of people you interact with each day. I’m an advocate for the behavior behind the appearance. Many  readers who follow me on twitter know that my favorite tagline “What good is a new suit if the man inside is rotten?” is more than a catchphrase for me, it is a meditation. All of these actors are/were great actors, some are/were great people outside their craft. Some chose philanthropy, humanitarianism, some were ambassadors, artists, writers etc. What made them great was the incredible lasting impressions they left on us even to this day. They arrived but it was their body of work and influence that still make us refer to them as icons.

Whatever happened to style? That’s a question that we all can answer with our body of  life’s work.

Dress internally.

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Monday Motivations: A Gentleman’s Guide To Cool

Monday Motivations: A Man's Guide To Cool

When someone says “That’s cool” or “He/She is cool” we are acknowledging a certain something that makes a person seem different from the norm. Akin to being stylish, I believe being cool is a delicate balance of self-confidence and self-control. It’s more than what you wear because it has to permeate what you do and how you live everyday. You can’t “try” to be cool, you can’t “act” cool, it has to happen organically and for some people it’s almost innate. In a post I wrote called “The 7 Habits Of Stylish People” I talked about style being 70% character and 30% clothing. I truly believe that. The same could be said about being cool. No amount of self-promoting “Machismo” or bravado will make you cool. Cool is knowing & being. It’s watching, saying and doing the right thing at the right time.Cool is observing and listening to everything, then filtering out the things you don’t need. One can be cool if one is generous & has integrity. Cool is humble. Cool is quiet but powerful. Cool is purposeful. Mentoring is cool, Selflessness is cool. Sidney Poitier is cool, Martin Luther King Jr. is cool.  Harry Belafonte is cool.

Are you Cool?

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Fashion Friday: Dear Summer, Stop With The Flip-Flop Feet Already!

Fashion Friday: Dear Summer, Stop With The Flip-Flop Feet Already!

Dear Summer:
It’s warm outside; people are wearing fewer clothes, but please be modest. Some things shouldn’t be made public.
Let me tell you about flip-flops… You can judge a man by his choice in footwear. If a dude comes up rocking flip-flops, you know that guy isn’t going to be the kind of guy you want to have your back. You can’t fight in flip-flops. (I don’t endorse violence at all but if you need to defend yourself you’re doomed) You can’t run in flip-flops. You can’t ride motorcycles. You can’t use tools. You can’t kick stuff. You can’t conduct any type of professional business. You can’t even get into most bars wearing them (and if you do, I’ll “accidentally” spill my drink on your foot!). So seriously… what’s the point?

Gents, casual doesn’t mean ugly. Running shoes are for running, knapsacks are for hiking…flip-flops are for the beach.

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