Tag Archives: motivation

My Focus

Continue reading...

Transformations: Men, Self-Esteem and Relationships

In a earlier post I talked about a man’s perception of beauty. Now, I can’t and wont speak for most men. However, I think a discussion on a man’s self-esteem as it relates to his choices in his relationships is worthwhile. Self-esteem is not just a woman’s issue. With the economy being in serious trouble and the earning roles of families changing, some men are having to re-examine themselves in ways they never had to before. The epidemic of “Father Hunger” in our communities also has had a massive effect on the way some men feel about themselves. With these issues in play, a man’s self-esteem can be deeply connected to the choices made in terms of the women they choose to sleep with, date or even marry. Even if he had a father or depending how he was raised, a man’s self-esteem can decide if  he sees a woman as a threat to his “man-hood” or a partner in his relationship.

If a man sees himself as a “ladies man,” observes the way his peers treat women and under subtle peer pressure, become emotionally detached, seeing woman as nothing more than objects to be played with, used or even worse, treated with disrespect.

If he’s an “aggressive man” he may have seen the way his Father treated or controlled his Mother and carried that over into his own relationships, possibly leading to emotional and physical violence.

If he is a “passive man” he may not have had a father to guide him or observed a dominating Mother and now chooses women who either do the same to him or don’t encourage him to take the lead in the family.

Hopefully through it all he aspires to be the healthy balance of an “assertive man” who understands the need to use his power to protect and encourage, his wisdom to guide the course of his life, love to fill his life with humility and mildness to see her as his partner and life-mate.

Now I know that you can’t put all men into these categories but what you can do is ask yourself do I fit into one of these types of men? Can I strive to be embody the qualities that will move me closer to becoming a better man than I am now? Food for thought.

Continue reading...

Transformations: Stillness

Sometimes the tiniest effort in our lives can wield the most drastic results. Most of us are afraid of change, Some of us are paralyzed by fear, a few of us actually carry out the things that make us happy. So I guess the question is why? What makes us so adamantly resist change? Why is it hard for us to break away from the things that hurt us and move toward progress? Seasons change, Winter to Spring, Spring to Summer, Summer to Fall and Fall to Winter again. Time brings changes, subtle and drastic. Lines  and wrinkles appear where there were none. People and places fade in and out of our life, but one thing is constant…change is inevitable, like it or not its the core of life itself. I think we resist because of the unknown. We are not comfortable with not knowing. Not knowing the future, not knowing what will become of our lives. We worry about  our families, we worry about our finances and our health. The first step to over coming fear of change is to realize how important it is to our own advancement. When we change we move toward the happiness we most desperately want. We go from the stillness and silence of  inertness to the positive motion of progress.

Move…Go…Push the limits.

Continue reading...
%d bloggers like this: